It is Not a Failure if it Didn't Last Forever
If you are moving through a breakup, divorce or loss of any kind, this blog post is for you.
Anytime a relationship ends, there is pain. So often we have expectations about what will happen in our relationship and we are shocked when they don't meet those expectations.
We thought we'd be together for the rest of our lives. We thought we would get married. We thought we'd stay married. We thought we'd always be in love.
And sometimes, these things simply don't work out. If you are feeling these emotions, I feel you. It can be an incredibly difficult, raw time in our lives.
When I recently parted with my longterm partner, I felt defeated. I thought we were planning a life together and I thought we were on the same page. I had such huge plans and dreams for us.
And so when the relationship was no longer in alignment for us, I was shocked. I felt as though I had been deceived or duped. I wondered if I'd thrown away the last few years of my life. The more I reflected on that though, the more those words didn't quite resonate.
I'm here to remind you that your relationship was not a failure if it didn't work out.
So many of us have fallen victim to this limiting mindset and it does not serve anyone to think this way. Your relationship was not a failure just because it didn't end in marriage or last forever.
Your relationship served as a powerful lesson and I'm sure you learned a lot from this experience. You likely had beautiful moments with this person and you likely grew in more ways that you could have ever imagined.
So sister, please remember that it was not a waste of time and you did not fail. Rather, you have grown and now will be ready for the next phase of your life and perhaps, your next partner.